Ramadan Reflections: The Impossibility of Birth

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And comparing the expanse of the world into which a man enters on death is like comparing the spaciousness of the world to the womb; only it is wider and greater”Al-Ghazili in The Book of Patience and Thankfulness

It’s always a blessing to witness a birth, but as with everything in Ramadan, this blessing becomes manifold. This has been the year of precious Ramadan babies. They’ve all come with ease and grace, and many lessons to teach their midwife. In the quote above al-Ghazali says that this birth is a simile for the birth we will experience when pulled from our graves. A mother is earth, her flesh a portal transformed for another life. In tears, sweat, and joy she surrenders to life’s calling and purpose; a new soul to traverse the earth.

It is an impossible thing birth. Even as I watch mothers over and over again, I am always amazed that this is how human life begins. The act of birth is a great sign from God. What we would logically call impossible, in each moment of labor becomes more and more possible. At first we see a quarter size of the head, with each contraction we see more, but then it too disappears back into the womb. This is the two-steps-forward-one-step-back dance of the second stage. Allah’s power manifests itself clearly now as each witness is silently contemplating the possibility of a human emerging from such a small space. Even the mother needs a ‘you can do it’ at this point. Once we’ve given up, only then do we move forward.

Soon the prince or princess is crowning, emerging from one consciousness to the next. The attendants watch in wonder as the miracle that is about to occur pauses. With the next contraction the head spirals into Earth’s pull. A graceful exhale is warranted. The mother is in awe. The midwife is honored to be of the first to lay hands on the world’s newest member. It must be done with intention and clear spirit, for these new beings are impressionable. The shoulders and body emerge and a slippery body is placed on a heaving mothers chest.

The midwife can sit back now and watch from the corner. The room is still and seems to be full of angels, at least two more have just been called to duty. It took so long, yet went so fast. What we were once anticipating for months and months is now here in a matter of moments. The eyes of a child just born reveal all we need to know, aware, watchful, and knowing. As he takes in his surroundings, I wonder how we will take in our surroundings at the next phase of life. Will it be as astonishing and grand? Will there be joy or grief? What I now cannot fathom, a grave, bones, and a resurrection, will it all seem so obvious after the fact? Will I know who I am and will there be familiar souls to accompany me?

I’m not certain and apprehensive of the answers to these questions. But I do know that my perch in the birthing room again and again increases my certainty that creation is continually happening, and as uncertain as a new life after the grave may seem, each birth brings me closer to the fact that for the Creator, it is possible. It is just as possible as young mother stepping into a birth tub by herself, and emerging from it with another life. We dry them off and tuck them into bed. An ordinary miracle on a sunny Ramadan day.

9 comments

  • Beautiful and moving; had never thought of child birth in this manner 🙂

  • As-salaamu 'alaykum.Masha'a Llah a beautiful discription. I'm due in March next year, with my second child. As I move closer to the date, I'm nervous that I will be scared. After reading your words, I know I will read them again and again, because they have made my heart more smiling and I'm looking forward to all the feelings. May The Creator bless you with your du'as and more noor.Wa as-salaamUmm Ismaail

  • Love this post Mashallah, my little guy was a Ramadan baby as well. I remember praying tarawee at the Masjid the night my water broke. I ran into an old friend who was shocked to see that I was expecting. She said "when are you due?!" and I said "any day now" and that was in fact the day 😉

  • thank you so much for this reflection! you (and imam ghazali (ra)) made a connection i never considered before.

  • @mama forestdweller. thank you!! it's always nice to be reminded of our births;)@bonnie – did you have the baby? congrats to you and i pray it was a blessed experience!@c- a baby in ramadan on jummah?! masha'Allah!

  • Asalaamu AlaikumMy 6th child, a daughter was born at home in Ramadan on a Friday. It was so serene. The birth went so well masha Allah. I remember this birth with such fond memories.

  • This is beautiful! My own baby is due tomorrow and inshAllah will be a Ramadan baby, I feel doubly blessed after reading this.

  • What a stunningly beautiful post! I am reminded of my daughters' and son's births with gratitude…thank you for writing this.

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